Had another think," the word marriage" in most cases not mine even after 38 years The princess and I are still happy but I am blessed ,a couple of my mates are on their third try!
I likely be a bit curmudgeonish at times and I am not implying you are anserine, but your offerings are too "friendly'.
I'm looking for a word implying genuine dislike hidden by friendly fire.
So far me thinks @cusso ken hit it best with "jousting".
Perhaps, "acerbic" or "bathos"?