In regard to your questions:
Anyone with the skill, knowledge, and tools can do the instal. Keep in mind the R3 motor has some unique challenges. Is your local mechanic willing to back up his work with his wallet?! My triumph master tech ****ed the job up...this is a 20 year motorcycle mechanic trained on the Rocket maintenance in Hinkley... they backed their screw up with their wallet, will yours?
Tuning... see next post.
Vibration, not increase, actually, it’s smoother in most places.
Fuel, that depends on your particular build but most will happily run on normal old 87octane. Mine for example requires 92. The dual plug quad valve pent-roof design head is highly resistant to detonation.
That you tube video has been up for years, I have a feeling it’s the result of owner/operator error. I’ve never read the full story though.
Reliability wise, the head changes actually improve the design and make failure of a valve, bucket, or shim getting spit out less likely. Other wear items can and will fail, like on any bike. Cam chain guides, stator, ignition switches, engine sensors, tps sensor, all things you can count on failing at SOME point.
My very strong recommendation is that you factor shipping in as part of the expense and just send it to NJ... ensure it’s done right, and if something goes wrong with a part or during install, it’s at their shop so the onus is on them to fix it.